We don’t intentionally reject love to preserve a familiar identity. Instead, during times of closeness and intimacy, we react with behaviors that create tension in the relationship and push our loved one away.
Here are some common ways people distance themselves emotionally as a result of a fear of intimacy:
Reacting indifferently or adversely to affection or positive acknowledgement
Becoming paranoid or suspicious of a partner
Losing interest in sexuality
Being overly critical of a partner
Feeling guarded or resistant to being close
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